There is one thing in life that is as inevitable as death and taxes, and that is the existence of gossip. In a perfect world, the creators of rumors do not exist, but this has never been a perfect world. Gossip and gossiping people are a fact of life.
Gossip is a fact of life, not only in the workplace, but everywhere a group of people gather. Gossip of housewives; They exchange the latest juicy news on the fence, by phone, at PTA meetings, etc. Even the CEOs and executives of the company also participate in it. They can discuss the latest developments in the industry with their fellow CEOs during lunch at the Rotary Club meeting but, at the end of the day, what they are doing is exchanging gossip, especially if they are talking about matters that have not been officially announced. .
The two channels of human communication
There are two channels of communication in each aspect of human activity: the official or formal channel where the pronouncements of the superiors are sent to the lower levels. The official version is what is on paper and what employers profess.
Then there is the unofficial or informal channel, also known as the vine and the source of the so-called gossip and rumors. The informal channel is where the official versions are speculated and colored by personal opinions and subjective evaluations.
In addition to delving into the company’s business, the gossip also talks about Hollywood’s latest love affairs, malicious and personal attacks, harmless chats about the company’s love affairs, what the cafeteria will serve, what stores have a promotional offer at the center commercial, etc. .
Using the Grapevine to your advantage
There are two things to keep in mind about gossip: one, that there is no way to avoid it; and two, they are often useful, even valuable, nuggets of information that can be gleaned from gossip. The important thing is to separate the valuable information from gibberish. Here are some guidelines to help you distinguish useful information from the slag.
Let it slide
Do not pay attention to personal, vengeful or malicious attacks, especially those that claim to damage the reputation of people or companies and especially if you are working for those people or for that company.
If you are always affected by gossip and you try to close it, you will live your whole life with aggravations and you will not be able to change anything. Even if you dismiss each of the people who help spread the gossip, you will only stop it for a while, until it starts again.
Be in the search
On the other hand, pay attention to rumors about your workplace, but try to validate or refute this as soon as possible. There is a difference between malicious, unpleasant or spiteful rumors, and information that can have a negative impact on your company and your position. Learn to distinguish between the two.
Evaluate gossip bearers
Locate the most active gossip providers and categorize them based on their reliability. Use your personal rating to interpret the value of the gossip that is spread. The CIA, the FBI and all the other intelligence agencies do the same, why not?
Provide positive gossip
Use the vine to feed positive news. Gossip flows in two ways; Use the vine as a means to circulate good news about your company or the people you work with.
Face the source
If the gossip is about you and it is a pack of lies, face the source and set things right. This is the only time you are allowed to take gossip seriously; Ignore it as best you can the rest of the time.
The above guidelines will make the work environment more pleasant and have less problems for you as a manager. The best part is that you will use the vine in your favor instead of being a victim of it.