Bullying in schools has been news in recent years. However, it is an old problem that affected most of our schools, and many children have been treating it for a long time. Bullying is never a unique event; it usually happens and continues for a long period of time. Most of the time, it starts in elementary school, continues and increases in middle school, and begins to decrease in high school. This act of violence affects students in a very negative way and interferes with their ability to learn and grow in a safe environment. Looking beyond the line, we can find that bullying affects self-esteem and safety in people. We have to understand and educate ourselves about how bullying occurs. It takes many forms and forms:
1. Physical intimidation
This type of bullying occurs mainly among children. Children take advantage of the most vulnerable child in school. It can range from touching, pushing, kicking, hitting and provoking inappropriately. In my high school, children joked with a child daily in the dining room; They made fun of him until he exploded and got into trouble for acting badly. There were no teachers present to witness the beginning of the bullying; they were only there to witness the final result.
2. Emotional intimidation
This type generally happens more among girls. As a high school student, I was definitely exposed to emotional bullying. My experience ranged from spreading rumors, making fun of me, taunting me and keeping me out of groups. This experience made my experience in middle school horrible.
3. Cyber bullying
The increase in technology and the dissemination of social networks among adolescents has led to an increase in cyberbullying. Using the internet to spread rumors or insults seems easier for children than confronting their victims. It gives them the feeling of feeling anonymous while spreading rumors and insults to many people through the Internet.
We can no longer say the famous quote that children will be children and ignore the problem. We, as a society, as parents and as educators, must address this problem head on with all our resources.
1. Educators and counselors
They should be aware of loners, children with sudden changes in behavior or students whose grades have decreased and are failing. They should take an active role to involve them in various activities at school. Joining activities is a way for them to begin to control their own lives, increase their self-esteem and make new friends. In addition, they must be persistent. In my situation, I once met the counselor who suggested that I join a school activity and that was the end of our interaction. Monitoring is always important.
2. Establish a complaint table
Many children who witness intimidation want to take a position but are afraid of retribution. The existence of this box will give them a way to help other students and educators to know what is happening.
3. Parent’s responsibility
Parents should have an open communication with their children. Children should feel safe to talk with their parents about everything, and parents should learn to listen without being critical.
There is no denying that bullying is part of our schools. However, if we all work together, we will succeed in reducing it. Never give up: our children depend on all of us to protect them.